quarternotes

As you grow older, you'd realize that the meaning friendship changes even without you knowing it. There are some you can keep, and sadly, there are others you can't. You will have your shopping buddies, your chitchat chums, your eating partners, your go-crazy pals; the list goes on. But the most important and the rarest are the ones you can trust your tears with. Not all of your friends can take care of your tears. Some may not even see you crying. And it's just sad when you realize this during that time that you don't have anyone to share these tears with.

One simple thought I learned during Papa's (my grand dad) wake was that a good friend can not be gauged with how many times you smiled together, laughed at each others' stories or, eaten ice cream and cake with. Good friends are the ones seeing you when no one else could, crying with you, or being with you while you’re embracing the pain. These are the times when you need them the most… and when you can see them there with you, then keep in mind that these are the friends worth keeping.

RE-POSTING from Rica's Blog. Haha. Just for fun! =)


If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you,
nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his
behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to
be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was
not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A
friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is
stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think
"it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying
when things are not better. The only person you can control in a
relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch
of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why
would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends
separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If
something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He
will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important
than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not
make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never
let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he
cheated with her, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way
you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the
one doing all the ending...compromise is a two way street. You need time
to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should
never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two
WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him
miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are and you're
always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move
into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to
a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Share this with
other women and men (just so they know)...You'll make someone smile,
another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare....

The weirdest thing just happened. It's now 2:25 AM... So while working, an old friend YMed me and I haven't seen him for three years. He buzzed in just to say:

"don't stress yourself too much. konting tyaga lang.. just don't overdo it, 'kay? cge, just checked my e-mail. take care always"

Okay.. so is God telling me to take little break for a while? It feels good to get something like this when you're in the middle of stress. It's like God is using our family, our friends, or even our long-lost friends to become His angels to get His message across... or to simply comfort us while we're in our daily battle.

Yeah. Everything's gonna be okay. Sigh.